Learn To Value Yourself

It is said that teachers learn from their students and I would certainly endorse that and it is also said that the teacher teachers what they need to learn themselves. I couldn’t agree more. Supporting others in finding their strengths and skills has lead me to find my own.

From witnessing anothers, sometimes painful journey from a life of misery to a life of fulfillment has taught me to be grateful and appreciate my own. We can learn from each other if we open ourselves up to being available to learn.

The biggest lesson I’ve learned is to ‘value myself’.

By learning to value yourself you will discover that others start to value you too and those that don’t you will learn to either let go of or at least distance from.

I am constantly heartened at how powerful this lesson proves to be for people who have a very loud self critic. You have probably been criticising yourself for years so have become very good at it. Habits are hard to break but with determination and a drive for a better life, people do – with amazing results!

There are ways you can start to do this and I absolutely know (because I’ve witnessed it) that you will feel more positive about yourself and consequently attract more positive things into your life. Why not start today and keep a journal to record how you get on as writing things down is a very powerful lesson in itself.

6 Tips to Value Yourself

1. Daily Treats – Give yourself a treat which is just for you. This could be anything from having a soak in the bath, reading a favourite book, treating yourself to a coffee and cake or anything that you would consider a treat. Just make sure whatever you chose, it’s for YOU and ENJOY!

2. Give To Others – What you want back. Don’t wait to receive, give it first and why not start with a smile 🙂 Remember – those that can’t give one probably need one the most!

3. Become Your Best Friend – If you make friends with yourself you will certainly have learnt the lesson of self value. Imagine being attached to your worst enemy – not a good thought, but that’s what you do when you hate yourself! So make friends with yourself and become your biggest fan. You will attract others to value you too.

4. Me Time – Give yourself a realistic time which you can truly feel is yours. Even 10 mins of doing something that you chose is better than nothing. As you appreciate the value of me time you will want to expand it. This is a wonderful recipe for de-stressing!

5. Check Your Thoughts – If you catch yourself saying something negative add a positive comment on the end. E.g. ‘You are stupid’ ……add……’but not most of the time’ By correcting your negative self talk you will learn to start valuing yourself more.

6. Make A Meal For Yourself As If It Was For Your Best Friend – Plan it, dress for the occasion and serve it well. A truly ‘self value’ act………You Are Worth It!


About anitamartincouk

After training as a Nurse, Counsellor and a Trainer I discovered another passion – working with groups. Witnessing and being part of someone else’s personal journey is for me one of the most rewarding experiences I can have. Over the last 11 years I have been creating my own ‘brand’ of teaching and delivery and know from the feed-back I receive that the ingredients needed to enable another to grow are really so simple to give. I feel very privileged to have been given the insight from those who have travelled along very challenging paths to know what does and does not support them. Daring to truly listen, without judgement has enabled me to evolve as a trainer and I hope as a person as well. I have been and still am involved with working for an International Emergency Services Organisation, this has included working with the bereaved and also delivering training to airline staff and Police. As a result of this work I am more aware of how different cultures deal with a crisis in their life and appreciate how important it is to accept everyone needs to feel comfortable with how they express their thoughts and feelings. I arrived at a point in my life when I felt the nead to explore spirituality. Hence my love for ‘Intuition’ grew and I started to run ‘Developing Intuition’ courses followed quickly by many other Personal Development courses which I feel just as passionate about running now as I did when I began. I have reached thousands of people through my work as a trainer and counsellor and have run numerous personal development training courses and workshops, both privately and through various organisations, the subjects include Anxiety Management, Confidence Building & Self Esteem, Wellbeing for the Body and Mind and Approaching Change in a Positive Way plus many others. I have also organised and co-ordinated Exhibitions, Retreats and other Social Events. People come from all walks of life including mental health, hospital staff, recovering addicts, young mums, retired and the chronically ill and also individuals who want to experience their own personal journeys. I have recently released my first CD on relaxation and visualisations and also have produced a set of Intuition cards (based on the 28 lessons I learnt in New Zealand) taken from my very recently published book 'Awakening to the Power of Intuition' which includes my solo trip around New Zealand.
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